Sunday, May 31, 2020

Day 4, Forty Day Writing Challenge "Another place"

Tagaytay isn't my favorite place in the world. But I'm always happy when I'm in Tagaytay because all the people who've been there with me are people I love. 

I had one great ambition that, despite our many trips, I have never done because my husband is very protective. I have always wanted to ride a pony on the volcano -- the smallest volcano in the world. You have to cross a lake to get to the island where the volcano is. And I have never done that.

However, one day (in our latest visit to Tagaytay), I was happy because my sister Alice said she'd ride the pony with me on the mountain. My husband can never refuse my sister. We went to a restaurant for breakfast before our volcano visit. However, at the restaurant, the waiters warned us that they had stopped allowing pony rides on the island of late, because of some activity which the volcano had been displaying. The most we could do is ride a boat and see the volcano from afar. So that ended my almost attempt to ride the pony there.

Ed, my husband, always refused to let me ride a pony on the volcano because he knew it wasn't very safe. A friend of mine said she almost fell into the volcano when she was a child. She'd been to the island many times with her family, but this time she ran so fast she slipped in. She tried to climb back up, but instead, she was slipping downward. Fortunately, her uncle rescued her.

Incidentally, after our last visit to Tagaytay,  a couple of weeks later the tiniest volcano in the world erupted on January 12 of this year, 2020.  

The last time the volcano erupted was 43 years before. This time, the ash was unusually wet, affecting the entire island, vegetation, fields, forests, animals, and inhabitants of the island. Ashfall also hit the surrounding waters and the coastal villages of nearby lands. The ash, because it was wet, appeared first as mud, then later dried up to resemble cement. Damage to plants and animals totaled some US$11 million, a huge bill for a provincial tourist hub. 

Friday, May 29, 2020

Day 3 Forty Day Writing Challenge "an unforgettable place"


Ed and I were a young couple with a two-year-old daughter, and it was the first time we went to Taiwan. It was also the first time that my daughter rode a plane. At that time I didn't realize that my husband was wrestling with anxiety and that he was fearful of riding planes. Still, he embraced the flight and waited with anticipation to see how our daughter Kat would respond to it. The plane rose so smoothly that Kat didn't know that she was flying on air, and she was perfectly well with the whole experience.

We rode on Eva Airways which was, then, a new airline in the Philippines. It had a great reputation that it lived up to when we rode it. It was a family trip -- Sami, mom, Ed, me, and Kat. It was the smoothest ride I'd ever had on a plane. And it was special because we were all together and we were going to live in Alice's house in Yangmingshan.

Today, if you mention Yangmingshan it is largely known for its beautiful park and the experience of trekking. It's so popular that you need to get a three-day advance pass to go in there. This made it hard for the dwellers there and now foreigners live in Tienmu. When we were in Taiwan in 1994, Tien Mu was a place where you could buy cheap clothes. Now, it's a swanky neighborhood.

But when we were in Yangmingshan it was a lovely, upscale neighborhood with many houses. The wind softly embraced me, and it was genuinely cold. I prefer cold to hot weather at any time. Although, I wouldn't like to be too cold. For example, I loved the snow in Boston, but when strong winds accompanied the snow, my ears would freeze regardless of the tam I wore to cover them.

My sister drove a small, smart sports car to pick us up. My husband, being the biggest among us, had the front seat with her. Sami. Mom, Kat, and I had the back seat. It was a rather crowded ride and I recall hoping that it wouldn't be a long ride to get to her home. When we arrived Mom told us "Look I want all of you to see something". So we all stayed obediently in place while she got up to get off the car. "That is what I sat on," she said. It was a very tiny space that could probably support a little less than one butt cheek. I couldn't help it, I had to laugh because, throughout the whole ride, mom had kept stoically quiet. But mom understood my humor and she wasn't offended. Now that we were finally at Alice's home, she laughed too. Maybe she felt very proud of herself for managing to ride so long in that horribly uncomfortable way.

We gathered our luggage and entered Alice's beautiful home. It was a four-bedroom house and Alice said she had asked the Embassy to prepare extra beds for all of us. Alice lived in an enclave that was shared with other US diplomats. All the houses were alike, but they were spaced well apart to permit privacy.

As newlyweds, Ed and I were still trying to find the right mesh that could carry us well into the future in a happy way. He was raised in a Filipino-Spanish home in posh San Lorenzo Village in Makati, with five maids and 14 dogs. When we weren't married yet, I would call him on the phone to talk to him. The maid usually answered the phone and when I'd ask for Ed she would say, "Senorito Ed?" He wasn't raised to do work around the house, and neither was I, since I lived in a house in Greenhills also with five maids.

So when we were in Taiwan I learned to clean Kat's pee if it leaked from her diapers and to take care of her without a Yaya. The good part was that our entire family loved Kat, so I wasn't short of help. Kara would take out her Mickey Mouse doll and play with it in front of Kat, who brought her own Baby Mickey all the way from the Philippines. When Kat waited for me on the floor while I ate on the dining table, she fell asleep so mom gave her some pillows and a blanket. Alice always laughed because Kat was scared of Tito Ted, Alice's husband. Kat was so scared that whenever he took pictures of us her face was turned away from the camera.  Even one month after we returned from Taiwan, every morning Kat would wake up and say "I don't like Tito Ted." Her Yaya asked her why, and Kat would jut her chin forward and make her eyes very big, which was a pretty close resemblance to Ted's face. When I told this to Alice in a letter, she laughed very hard. Sami always doted on Kat. Sami used to work in Makati and in her free time, she would get Kat from San Lorenzo and take her to the mall. So Kat was surrounded by love in Taiwan.

There's such a great sense of romance that I feel when I see Chinese architecture well done. When I lived in Hong Kong I loved the pagodas and the buildings that always curved upwards at the ends like a graceful mustache. I loved the bridges that would curve upwards then down, forming a perfect circle that you crossed a lake with. Everything was beautiful.

My clearest memory was visiting the tomb of Sun Yat Sen, which resembles the Lincoln memorial in Washington DC. Sen was the founding father of the Republic of China on the mainland. He died in 1925, and mainland China became the People's Republic of China.  Sun was succeeded by Chiang Kai Shek whose Kuomintang forces brought the ROC to Taiwan in 1949, at the end of a civil war with Mao Zedong. Chiang Kai Shek died in 1975.

Stillness is not something that I ordinarily associate with myself. But looking back, I remember the mountains I loved to climb in Hongkong, which always had lovely surprises such as lakes with tadpoles, charming pagodas, sandy pathways, and lovely boulders suitable to sit on and just imbibe the stillness all around you. And when I think again of the beautiful park outside the tomb of Shang Kai Shek, I recall a natural stillness. I could talk to everyone around me, but in the center of myself, I felt still. This is something I realized only now while writing this. I'd always felt you had to meditate to be still, and I never really felt fully still. But now I know that natural stillness can occur just by being around the very lovely, curvature parks of Hongkong and Taiwan, where surprisingly, a Scottish proverb comes to mind, "Better bend than break". It happens like magic.


Thursday, May 28, 2020

Day 2, Forty Day Challenge "A place"

I was a fifth-grade student at the International School of Brussels, Belgium. The school was fun because the subjects were most interesting. I also loved its location, on top of a hill with lovely, seemingly wild gardens and the smells of fall, a mysterious potpourri of scents carried by the wind all about. I loved the wind as it washed my skin as we climbed up the hill at the start of the day, and going down the hill when school was over. I thought then that the International School of Brussels was the most beautiful and captivating school of all the schools I had ever been to. And as the daughter of a diplomat, I had attended seven of them. Seven different grade schools in seven different countries.

After school, there was always this unfailing anticipation rushing through my heart that the day would end fantastically. This is because my sister Terrie and I would drop off our school books in our home on posh Franklin Roosevelt Avenue, then take a short walk to Bois de la Cambre, a historic park in Belgium. The park was located behind, but parallel to where we lived on Franklin Roosevelt street, and it was just a short walk away. The winds became magical hugs and for a child in grade school, Boix de la Cambre was enchanting.

I've never been to  Central Park in New York, but I bet it doesn't have that storytelling nature of Boix de la Cambre. In the fall we would sit on the perfectly manicured grass on an even wider field of green and stare at the pond, where there were swans, ducks, and geese floating past. There were also tiny rowboats.

I never tried to ask if I could ride a boat because I always presumed it was too expensive.  I rarely asked for anything when I was young because nothing I liked seemed to be important. At least, nothing that I ever asked for. I could hear my mother's sharp "No" whenever I asked for anything. There were five children to feed in our family. The youngest child would be born 11 years after me, making her the sixth. So I never asked for anything that I truly wanted. And many times, I made myself not want anything at all.

One day some friends of Terrie were riding a boat and they invited her to join them, so she did. I never asked her how the boat ride was because at that time we were with Terrie's friend Sherrie Walsworth and her younger brother. Sherrie looked a bit strange, the kind of girl that the mean girls at school would pick on. She had a head of curly brown hair, and her eyes were hidden by very thick eyeglasses that, from outside seemed to be magnifying glasses, making her eyes look bigger than they were. And her lips were full. I imagine Sherrie became a great beauty as an adult, but in grade school, she just didn't fit in because of her looks.

First Terrie got into the boat, then Sherrie. But in getting into the boat her foot slipped into the water up to her ankle. Someone told her to get off of the boat, so she did. As Terrie rode with her friends, Sherrie's younger brother kept talking and talking to her, as though he was trying to cheer her up because he knew that she felt bad. I was very quiet because I think as a child I was emotionally challenged. I knew he was trying very hard to cheer his sister up. I couldn't understand why, but it interested me that he cared about her and was protective of her.

Sheree's brother made it a game to get sticks that were floating near the edge of the pond. He'd use another stick to get it. He went on and on and I looked around me. Suddenly there was a huge splash. He had fallen into the pond up to his waist. He simply got out of the pond and we continued to watch and wait until Terrie came back from her boat ride.

Finally, the boat approached the dock. Sherrie was trying to get the rope to tie the boat to a post. She also yelled at her brother to help. In trying to get the rope, Sherrie fell into the pond head first. I saw it and she looked so comical, landing in the pond head first, followed by her rubber shoe on her leg flying over her head. Splash.

Sometimes things happen in threes. First, Sherrie's ankle was caught in the water, making one of the girls tell her to get off the boat. Then her brother fell into the pond up to his waist. And finally, Sherrie fell in head first, all in one afternoon. I laughed, which was a very unsympathetic thing to do. I really laughed. And then Sherrie cried.

Terrie consoled Sherrie and we brought her and her brother home. She let Sherrie take off her clothes and shower and loaned Sherrie her own clothes and her own jacket. This made Sherrie feel better. Her brother seemed relieved that Terrie was taking charge. Terrie gave Sherrie a bowl of warm soup. We stayed at home together until Sheree's parents came to pick her and her brother up.

I had no feeling, and at that time, it didn't bother me. But now, as a senior citizen, I realize that there was something emotionally wrong with me at that point in time of my life.

Day 1, Forty Day Challenge "When I write I"

When I write, I do so mainly as a job. The joy I get from writing depends on what I'm writing about. There are so many things I want to write about. Some topics keep me engaged from start to finish. Others bore me in the middle and then I slug through it paragraph by paragraph, writing for 15 minutes, and then watching a movie on Netflix or YouTube to relax. In this way, an article can take up to 10 days. I refuse, however, to write about anything else until I finish it. That's probably the most disciplined thing about my writing.

When I was a young professional, writing embodied a lifestyle. There was the office where you meshed with other journalists. The interviews, the press conferences, the swag, the ability to show up at formal affairs wearing jeans because well, you were a writer. Meeting other writers and getting close to them all, and free meals while interviewing people who needed the publicity.

I was never, however, in a position where the gifts were huge. The business pages would get extravagant sums of money deposited in the person's bank account. And there were free trips abroad, all expenses paid. Plus, there was the luxury of having someone who knows the place you visit to show you some of the nicest things their country has to offer.

I didn't get many free trips, but I'm thankful for those I had. Because when you're in a press jaunt they put you in five-star hotels and feed you the most expensive meals in the poshest restaurants. I always felt like a very important person when I was on a press jaunt, just because of the hotel room I was in.

I'm not going to say which of my trips were press jaunts, but I will say where I've been. In the Philippines, I'd been to  Baguio, Tagaytay, Cebu, Palawan, Albay, Ternate in Cavite,  Carmona in Cavite, Lipa in Batangas, and Ilocos Norte. Overseas, I'd been to New Zealand, Hongkong, Macau, Taiwan, Thailand, Laos, Singapore, and Bali, Indonesia. I've also been to Boston, California, and Kansas. Plus Spain, France, Italy, Luxemburg, Belgium, Switzerland, Germany, and Amsterdam. Some of my travels were media trips, while others were taken with family. This paragraph is actually a humblebrag. Pardon me, I simply could not resist.

I miss writing fiction. When I was in grade school in Madrid, Spain, I kept a notebook of poems that I wrote. I never thought that writing made me special. But when we moved, afterward, to Brussels, the new tenant of our apartment in Madrid found my notebook of poems and told my parents that I was a poet. Mom and Dad often repeated that story. I guess they were proud of me but I wondered why. Because really, I never felt that anything about me nor anything I did was special. Still, their pride in me made an impression.

In Mercy High School in San Francisco, a poem I wrote was published in the school newspaper. In college, my first short story was published in Focus Magazine (now defunct). I liked the money and the thought of being paid while being a college student. And so my writing career began.

When you get old, you realize that writing is very different, mainly because of the internet. It's so much easier to do research and write something using what you researched. Here's the difference. When I wrote for publication (before the internet) I learned a lot from my interviews. I wrote entertainment articles, lifestyle pieces, business articles, political pieces, etc.

Now, I feel more comfortable writing because I can research online and get all the information I need to write a credible article. It is a matter of choosing good, reliable sources, and getting both sides of an issue, and double-checking your facts, and quoting your sources. These are the things that matter. When you write, you have to make sure that your article is well written and true.

My watcher: I don't get blocked now like I used to. I do get bored, my new form of blocking. My watcher also takes away from me the comfort I used to have writing fiction. I started out as a fiction writer and now I can barely get started doing it. I think it's time for me to tackle that again.